Sunday, April 06, 2008
Rejected
I got an email invitation to try eHarmony.com for free. And though I'm not in the market, I've been intrigued by eHarmony's ads and wondered just what my personality profile would show and what kinds of women would be my "match," so I filled out the survey, without intention of going through with joining or dating. But like the people in the ads from chemistry.com, I was rejected by eHarmony. I had no matches.
The company puts it diplomatically that their matching scheme doesn't work for me, and notes that this is true in 1 in 5 cases. Still, you are left wondering what is wrong with you. If my current partner, who in her worst moments of depression -- thankfully rare -- claims she never should have been with anyone, had not seen fit to be with me, would I be alone now? Unfit myself to be with a woman? Or at the very least undesired by any woman that I would desire?
When I was in high school, I didn't have a girlfriend, and I knew why. I wasn't what they were looking for -- too skinny, too shy, too nice-guyish. It sucked, and I wondered if it would ever change. It was my own personal nightmare. Well, it worked its way out, but eHarmony brought those thoughts and feelings back to my memory.
And makes me wonder again -- what do women want?
The company puts it diplomatically that their matching scheme doesn't work for me, and notes that this is true in 1 in 5 cases. Still, you are left wondering what is wrong with you. If my current partner, who in her worst moments of depression -- thankfully rare -- claims she never should have been with anyone, had not seen fit to be with me, would I be alone now? Unfit myself to be with a woman? Or at the very least undesired by any woman that I would desire?
When I was in high school, I didn't have a girlfriend, and I knew why. I wasn't what they were looking for -- too skinny, too shy, too nice-guyish. It sucked, and I wondered if it would ever change. It was my own personal nightmare. Well, it worked its way out, but eHarmony brought those thoughts and feelings back to my memory.
And makes me wonder again -- what do women want?
Labels: dating, dating services, women
